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A New Way to Look at the Attention-Deficit/Hyperactive
Child or Adolescent
By Royal E. Alsup, Ph.D.
The strengths and weaknesses of children and adolescents with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity
Disorder (ADHD) are easily recognized when the behavioral qualities
of these children are spelled out as part of their temperament profile.
The following nine characteristics outlined in this temperament
and traits approach to ADHD help educators and parents replace labeling
techniques with compassionate and useful understanding. Dr. Carey's
book, Understanding Your Child's Temperament, offers fresh beginnings
to teachers and parents as they struggle to understand and help
the ADHD child.
High Activity
The ADHD child's high level of activity is considered appropriate
or inappropriate according to situation or context in which the
behavior takes place. Playing football and dancing require high
activity performances. Movie theaters and classrooms demand low
activity levels. For example, moving around the classroom without
permission and fidgeting or squirming in one's seat is usually seen
as inappropriate hyperactivity. ADHD children have difficulty determining
the correct behavior for the situations in which they find themselves
on a daily basis. It is estimated that fifty to sixty percent of
ADHD children suffer from learning disabilities that can interfere
with their being able to appropriately self-control their high activity
behavior in any given situation.
Low Regularity
Sleep disturbance is a primary area that reveals low regularity
in ADHD children. Irregularity in sleeping causes them to be grumpy
and impatient with teachers and peers. At times the tiredness makes
it very hard for the ADHD child to get out of bed and to arrive
at school on time. School absence and class tardiness disrupt the
process of bonding to the school. It is difficult for ADHD children
to achieve a comfortable "fit" in a school environment
that demands regularity. Sleep disturbance and inattention problems
eventually make schoolwork feel negative.
Risk Taking or Bold Initial Reaction
Risk taking behaviors, which often lead to physical injury, alert
playground teachers and bring negative attention to ADHD children.
Boldness may take the form of challenging authority figures when
first meeting them and breaking rules by coming to class stoned
or carrying cigarettes on campus. This can be the start of the oppositional
defiant disorder that sometimes is mixed with ADHD. A positive aspect
of bold, risk-taking behavior is that it can be channeled into things
like sports, dance or drama. Participating in these areas can help
ADHD children bond with the school if the child perceives such activities
as rewarding.
Low Adaptability
Inattention-sluggishness and hyperactivity-impulsivity make it
difficult for an ADHD child to fit with and adapt to friends, teachers
and parents. Impulsivity causes ADHD children to blurt out answers
and talk out of turn in the classroom. Peers get impatient with
them and do not want to be associated with them. Many do not get
invited to slumber parties, dances or off campus activities. The
resulting isolation and alienation are painful for ADHD children
and their parents.
Environmental support of the ADHD temperament is essential for
these children to flourish. ADHD children can be taught social skills
to improve their relationships in most areas of their lives. Remember
to support and praise these children when they do what is right.
Encouragement goes a long way.
High Intensity
Coerciveness brings out the harsh, high intensity level of the
child, along with oppositional defiant behavior. Often ADHD children
have a negative reputation because they are quick to challenge the
authoritarian teacher or parent. Positive parenting and teaching
with reasonable expectations usually works more effectively with
these children. When parents or teachers lower their intensity,
the child usually lowers his intensity. With the intensity level
lowered, the real needs of parent and child can emerge so that a
true partnership and a real intimacy may develop out of the passion
between them.
Negative Mood
Negative moods originate out of the high intensity, anger and aggression
of ADHD children. They often suffer from depression because of peer
rejection and low school achievement. Agitated depression makes
them impatient and hostile toward themselves and others. Internalizing
the anger and hostility makes them feel worthless, hopeless and
helpless. Negative mood as a trait does not necessarily cause depression.
It depends on how the temperaments of the parents and teachers fit
with this particular ADHD trait. The child needs to be reminded
and encouraged to take ownership of his negative mood in such a
way that he realizes it is part of who he is. Catch your ADHD child
in positive and sociable moods to reinforce the relationship bond.
Encouraging positive relationships helps the ADHD child try harder
to be pleasant with siblings and teachers.
Low Persistence and Attention Span
Poor school performance because of a low attention span defeats
the learning spirit of some ADHD students. Many are successful in
school when they are given special education that helps them organize
tasks and learn in shorter segments, with contingent support and
praise. ADHD students work well with periodic breaks and encouragement.
Putting ADHD students in time-out and sending them to the office
adds to their isolation and self-hate. Reward efforts to complete
homework rather than focus on the final grade. Immediate, easily
identified reinforcement will improve persistence and attention
span.
High Distractibility
Inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity are behaviors that originate
in the high distractibility trait of the ADHD child. The school
environment is demanding for ADHD children and out of the need to
survive they protect themselves from stimulus overload. They can
become hyperactive and impulsive as their inability to focus and
concentrate becomes more problematic, and so they may shut down
and refuse to participate. Teachers often misunderstand the stonewalling
behavior of ADHD children, accusing them of being disobedient rather
than seeing them as trying to limit the challenges to their distractibility.
The misunderstanding brings out the high intensity and negative
mood of the ADHD child, causing cursing, screaming and yelling.
Being required to work on long, demanding, monotonous projects and
expending unrelenting mental effort aggravate the distractibility
problem of the ADHD child and may cause anxiety and depression.
High Sensitivity
ADHD children are easily overwhelmed by too much stimuli because
of their high sensitivity level, causing them to experience fear,
anger, excitement, surprise, sadness and general disorientation.
Older ADHD children may self-medicate through substance abuse to
help them manage or to reduce the disruptive stimuli.
It is beneficial to reduce the amount of stimuli at home and school.
Instructions for chores need to be clear and brief. Directions can
be written out in simple steps, with immediate rewards upon completion.
It is always wise to remember the rule of reasonable expectations
for ADHD children-accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative.
Repeating instructions often and providing immediate reinforcement
for compliance are so important.
Conclusion
The temperament approach to understanding ADHD is very helpful
in explaining the reasons for the frustrating and challenging behaviors
and characteristics of ADHD children and adolescents. A strong spiritual
life will help parents and teachers during the difficult time of
dealing with the ADHD child. Good solid research indicates that
most relationships, such as between parent and child or husband
and wife, need five positive rewards to every negative consequence
in order for the relationship to work.
The Spirit brings love, compassion and patience to help parents
teach ADHD children that these traits are internal. Only when they
attain this awareness, usually in adolescence, can ADHD children
learn self-control and self-monitoring. The Spirit introduces meaning
and purpose, generosity and support to parents and teachers who
have been put in charge of these highly sensitive children who suffer
from isolation and rejection. Love is the gift from the Spirit that
occurs between parents and children as the I and Thou experience.
References
Barkley, R. A. (1997). ADHD and the
Nature of Self-Control. New York: Guilford Press.
Carey, W. B. (1997). Understanding
Your Child's Temperament. New York: Macmillan.
Kronenberger, W. G. & Mayer, R. G. (1996). The
Child Clinician's Handbook. Needham Heights, MA: Allyn &
Bacon.
McCord, J. (Ed.) (1995). Coercion
and Punishment in Long-term Perspectives. New York: Cambridge
University Press.
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